After he’d told me about his retirement and what his children were up to, he then said, “So, what are you up to these days? Sue tells me you’re doing some sort of relationship counselling.”
I immediately felt awkward and panicky as my thoughts tumbled into a frantic search for some sort of description that would serve to explain what I actually do and, to be honest, let me off the hook!
This split second of discomfort was followed by my head clearing and a feeling of relaxation as I started to explain what I do.
“Well, it is sort of like that” I explained, “although not exactly counselling. it’s more like listening to how people are seeing their lives playing out and exploring why it might seem like that”
Fortunately, he wasn’t put off and actually asked for more. What followed was a really gorgeous conversation about thoughts and feelings, Universal Mind and relationships in general.
It turned out that his beloved dog had recently died and he was well aware of the poleaxing thoughts that seemed to come from nowhere, remind him of his grief and create a storm of uncomfortable feelings. He was also well aware of the fact that, although these thoughts appeared to come from nowhere he was able to let them pass through if the time wasn’t convenient for him to fully feel them.
“It’s the same with the kids” he continued. “One minute I think I love them to bits and the next minute I think I can’t stand them! So that’s just random thoughts and I don’t need to do anything about it. Now, that I like. Same with the wife and the mother-in-law! Hah, now I like that even more!!”
“So really” he said “what you do is help people see that any thoughts that they have are just passing stories and because they’re not real we don’t have to do anything with them if we don’t want to?”
I don’t remember much more of the conversation, although I do remember him saying how much this all made sense and how, when he was a policeman, he and his colleagues could clearly see that one thought believed and acted upon could send people down a path to the courtroom and even prison. He wasn’t sure that some of these people weren’t born bad and deserved everything they got, but we’ve got time and he wants to explore more.
We finished the conversation with him saying; “You need to talk to kids about this, if they knew that their thoughts weren’t real, we could save a lot of them going to prison and ruining their lives”.
We went our separate ways with me promising to send him some more information (and of course, The Little Book of Clarity!) and I’m sure the conversation will continue, after all there’s plenty more parties booked in the diary……………………………
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